Showing up for ourselves
August 15th, 2011
Lately I have had a number of clients not show up for phone sessions. I know they would not miss a meeting with their boss. I am guessing a meeting to do a Weekly Review seems like something not so important. What may not be obvious is that every meeting with someone else is first of all a commitment with myself to show up. I experience and know for myself that when I do not show up for myself (or someone else) I pay a big price in the area of self trust. And while not an immediately apparent correlation, it does affect my level of energy, my respect for myself and ultimately my ability to complete. I recently went a few weeks without doing a Weekly Review. While I consciously kept renegotiating the scheduled review with myself on my calendar, I could feel the pull on my attention that I was not doing what I have as an agreement with me, i.e. regular Weekly Reviews. What we tell ourselves we will do matters.
The cost of "checking"
July 08th, 2011
There is a big hidden cost in the email "checking" behavior. Start counting how many times a day you check email on an iPhone, Blackberry or computer. Each time you check, you reinforce a habit of distraction that keeps you from your best self; your focus and productivity decline significantly. Instead of checking, choose an action to complete and watch your productivity soar.
Tell Yourself in writing
June 20th, 2011
My friends' kids recently told their mother they would prefer written notes for their chores rather than the incessant verbal reminders.
"Just write it down and then stop talking about it please" was how one of the kids put it.
I bet our mind would like us to just write it down so it doesn't have to keep reminding us...not to mention we would like to stop those constant reminders as well.
Do yourself (and your mind) a favor and tell yourself what to do by putting it in writing.
Endings that finish
May 12th, 2011
Notice how you end actions, meetings, and conversations. Do you finish consciously or do you just trail off into something else without actually completing? Or, do you continue talking until someone else interrupts and never actually complete the original conversation?
Do you consciously end your day or fall asleep to a book or the TV?
I was aware today of the increased calm and balance when I take the time to finish what I start.
April 14th, 2011
A client of mine discovered that she stops what she is doing long before she is finished. She also finds that she has been putting things in unusual places. I suggested that her full attention needs to be placed with her actions all the way to completion, such as until the thing she is putting away lands in its place and settles down. She realized she needs to slow way down for that to happen. Conscious placement of things with our full attention calms the being.
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