: Are you Still Working with that Lady?
In preparing receipts in three different currencies for invoicing I had the experience of being fully immersed and in the place where time disappears. Any reference to the day of the week or location was gone and I was one with the invoices. (That sounds like I need a life.) But honestly, that place of complete absorption is the ultimate fulfillment...only this moment and nothing else. Frustration goes away, the one-at-a-time principle is fully engaged and the thing gets done without pressure or drama.
I think for a lot of us the drama can easily become the comfort zone and the place of presence in this moment is unsettling and a little intimidating. These days that is my unscientific explanation for so much distraction with texts/ims/email. Some people dip into being fully present and yank themselves right out as it is too unfamiliar.
I keep holding for more and more fully immersed moments as I find them liberating. It also means I am on track with what I teach. And certainly those around me find my disposition a lot friendlier.
Speaking of that, I had the ultimate compliment the other day from 7 year old Patrick, the son of a recent corporate client who has been under a great deal of pressure. He asked his Mom, "Are you still working with that lady?" She said "What lady?" And he said, "You know, the one that makes you not so grumpy." Kids are so honest and they see clearly what is going on. His Mom say that he received the benefit of the work we did together and from his comment it looks like he will be keeping her on track. She knows when she keeps her mind clear, stays on one thing through to completion and keeps the expanded view of what is on her plate, her grumpiness factor (as Patrick defines it) diminishes.
I think it's time we pay more attention to the wisdom and truth from all of our kids, especially the one inside of each of us. Thank you Patrick.
1. The next time you feel the least bit frustrated, take a breath and ask yourself if there is something that needs your attention. It might simply be you.
2. As you begin your next task invite yourself all the way into it completely.
3. When you get the urge to "check" email simply pause and take yourself back to what you were doing and stay with it all the way through to completion.