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Just published: Martha Treat #198
Are YOU at the top of your To Do List?
When consulting I notice personal actions are often put at the bottom of client Next Actions lists. Frequently in sessions, I invite people to make the calls as we work to get their personal appointments (medical, lunch/dinner with friends, exercise etc.) on their calendar. They often remark how long it has been in their head to do.
In my own experience, if I am not giving to myself first, I have no enthusiasm to handle what is being asked of me. Saying yes to ourselves first is crucial if we want to increase our energy, engage our enthusiasm and experience new levels of joy.
One universal behavior we all do is to expect ourselves to manage everything in our heads thinking, I don’t need to write that down, I will remember it…and then we don’t. Writing all to-dos down even the seemingly insignificant ones is giving to ourselves. Delegating to paper or digital lists releases the pressure of undone things pulling on our attention regardless of their simplicity or complexity.
How often do we say yes to things without asking ourselves if that action is aligned for us to do? Before saying yes, I have a practice of asking myself if the action is aligned for me as well as for the other person. It adds to my clarity, focus, and balance.
And then there are the dreams we have never dared to tackle or the fun things we love to do that don’t seem to get scheduled. Here is one of my dreams I dared to tackle.
I have always been physically active but not fully connected to my body and how it moves. I would just push my body to do. In yoga or Feldenkrais classes when a teacher would say feel that muscle, I was often baffled at my inability to actually feel it. My wonderful mind would override any body sensations. Finally, last year I said enough and committed to being fully in my body focusing on being grounded and connected in my body which has included working with a Gyrotonic’s teacher.
This week I felt a muscle connection in my body that has always alluded me. My trainer was excited as she watched me move and hold muscles that prior to our work over the past year I was not yet able to locate or isolate. Tears filled my eyes realizing that the commitment I made to myself a year ago is actually happening. In the past, I gave up as it didn’t happen fast enough.
Committing to ourselves IS putting ourselves at the top of our to-do lists. Say yes to yourself often by taking care of your body, mind, and emotions. Practice doing what engages you, keeps you enthused, allows your mind and body to relax and breathe.
Taking care of yourself first will allow you to take care of everything else in your life with grace and ease as you will be doing from overflow. It all starts with saying Yes to you first.
1. Schedule one thing right now you have been putting off doing for you.
2. Before saying yes to anything, stop, breathe and ask yourself if it is aligned to do.
3. Ask yourself before plunging into your to-do list if there is something you would like to do for you.
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